Why Your Co-Parent Isn't the Problem (And What Actually Is)
Here's an uncomfortable truth: Your ex isn't the reason co-parenting is hard.
I know, I know. They're late for every pickup. They don't follow the parenting plan. They undermine your rules. It's so easy to point the finger and say, "If only they would just..."
But after 15 years as a guardian ad litem, I've seen this pattern hundreds of times. The parents who transform their co-parenting relationship don't wait for their ex to change. They focus on what they can control.
The Real Problem: Unclear communication, mismatched expectations, and reactive responses.
The Real Solution: Systems that work regardless of how cooperative your co-parent is.
Think about it this way: You can't control whether your co-parent shows up on time, but you can control how you respond when they're late. You can't force them to follow your house rules, but you can create consistency in your own home.
What Changes Everything:
Having scripts for difficult conversations
Setting boundaries that protect your peace
Creating systems that reduce friction
Knowing when to engage and when to step back
The most successful co-parents I work with have one thing in common: they stopped trying to change their ex and started changing their approach.
Want to discover what you can control in your co-parenting situation? Our one-hour Zoom Assessment reveals the specific strategies that work for your unique challenges.
