The 3 Co-Parenting Mistakes That Make Everything Harder (And How to Fix Them)

You're probably making co-parenting harder than it needs to be. Here's how to stop.

Mistake #1: Using Your Kids as Messengers

"Tell your dad he needs to send your soccer cleats." "Ask your mom what time she's picking you up."

Every time you do this, you're putting your child in an impossible position. They become anxious, worried about saying the wrong thing, and feel responsible for keeping both parents happy.

The Fix: Direct communication with your co-parent, even when it's uncomfortable. Your kids should never be your go-between.

Mistake #2: Fighting the Same Battles Over and Over

If you're having the same argument about bedtimes, screen time, or pickup schedules month after month, you're stuck in a reactive cycle.

The Fix: Proactive problem-solving. Address the root cause, not just the symptoms. Create agreements that prevent recurring conflicts.

Mistake #3: Assuming Bad Intent

"They're doing this just to hurt me." "They don't care about the kids." When you assume negative motives, every interaction becomes a battle.

The Fix: Focus on behavior, not intent. Address what's happening, not why you think it's happening.

The Bottom Line: These mistakes are normal, but they're also fixable. With the right strategies and support, you can transform your co-parenting relationship from a source of stress into a source of stability for your family.

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